Why is it that people spend too long in a funk when their relationship ends? ~ Helen Zee
What makes love lost lose its vibrancy and glow diminish when a relationship ends? When a great love ends it course, love feels unpalatable. It’s ruthless.
Work capacity, creativity, vitality in social circles, running a business with flair and exuberance takes a dive, all at the same time. Love which felt so warm, expansive and hopeful changes instantly to feeling relentless. The casualty pool extends beyond a broken heart for a lost love. Your work is affected, your zest for life dims. And for how long depends on you.
People question the feeling of being in a funk without understanding there is a psychosomatic interrelationship between our emotions and sex centre. The physical sex centre that is located in our lower belly area.
Understanding how many physiological and psychological traits are governed by the energy of sex can relieve people from spending too long in their aftermath beat up.
Correlation of loss of creativity, confidence and sociability when relationships end:
Our sex centre, also known as sacral chakra, Swadisthana in yoga vedic teachings, govern a big part of our heart and love feelings. Located in our lower abdomen, the psychological functions governed here are our feelings, emotions, intimacy, procreation, polarity, sensuality, confidence, sociability, freedom and movement.
Can you see any correlations on what gets diminished when love is lost? And why people spend too long in a funk when their relationship ends?
Sociability diminishes. Sensuality and confidence are questionable. Motivation for physical activity and hobbies take a back seat. Thoughts can overpower a person thinking that great love and great loss affects every major aspect of life. And in a way it does. As these life traits are fueled by the same area.
A way out
It helps to check in with the psychological functions that are causing grief. It may be that a potential for a child is lost. Or a social network you had together has diluted. Or that feeling of entrust of the opposite sex starts to play up again.
There is a swirling of thoughts that go on. Go easy on yourself.
Its easy to replay the story with friends and not get a fresh insight. If this is happening for you, I suggest reaching out for professional support.
Recently, I helped a client uncover the deeper underlying dynamic of her relationship loss. Why it hurt so damn much. Why she felt debilitated, unmotivated and with such deep grief.
The gems were found when we uncovered a child paradigm left unnoticed. Feeling into an older feeling of abandonment gave clarity to the current situation. The person and her life on hold was no longer hostage.
No longer in a rut. No longer disrupting the natural loving flow of life. All the elements that make up the treasure of being in humanness.
Love is not a relationship. Love is a state of being. Make yourself known to your own loving being, enjoy your love interludes, your great loves. And keep coming home to yourself.
